In my marriage to my wife, Hunter, here are a few of my relationship Code of Ethics tenets, and a couple of comments about those.
*Consciously practice believing in Hunter, as much or more than she believes in herself.
* Consciously devote myself to supporting Hunter in being as powerful, independent and fully self-expressed as she possibly can be – always, in all ways.
* Consciously remember that Hunter is her own person, with her own life, her own point of view, her own belief system, her own needs, desires and wants. We are two people sharing our own lives and, as well, are living a shared life. I am her husband, friend, confidant, partner and life-companion. It is not my job to change her, work on her, dominate her, control her or limit her – in any way – ever. There is nothing of her, nor about her, that I ‘own’. My job is to work on me – be the most supportive husband, the most likable friend, the most reliable confidant, the most loving partner and the most desirable life-companion – such that she freely, consciously and powerfully chooses me as her partner, again and again – every day – for the rest of her life.
I am 65 years old, Hunter is 64. Hunter and I are now in our 53rd year of friendship, our 44th year of committed partnership and our 42nd year of marriage. For both of us, we feel like we are just getting started.
We know that the life we have with each other is the life we created. But, truthfully, we just can’t but help feel very lucky, very fortunate and very blessed.
As we move forward in our life together (on a day-to-day basis), it looks and feels as though we are causing and creating it. However, when we look back on our lives, it sure as heck looks far more like Divine Design. And it doesn’t matter to us whether this is ‘true’ or not, we just get so much value out of believing it’s true. And for us, belief trumps truth every time.
Thank you Hunter. You are extraordinary, and you never cease to amaze me!.